WHY 'DOING IT FOR YOUR FAMILY' IS A FAILURE TRAP
I speak to a lot of men
I ask – ‘𝘞𝘩𝘺 𝘥𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘸𝘦𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵?’
The most common answer?
‘For my family – the partner and kids’
Well why is it that these same men can’t motivate themselves to even get started?
I know with certainty, the answer.
Changing yourself is hard!
Not only does it require courage to start
But it requires you to adopt a new mindset that’s different to your current one
It’s going to require you to push through large piles of shit some days,
Undoing 10-20 years of crap habits
It’s damn hard to do, especially if you’re doing it alone.
But, the main problem is this…
Doing it for someone else, other than YOU mate!
It might be honourable to say ‘I want to do it for them family’
But I can tell you sure as hell,
When you’re tired from work,
When you just want to sit down,
When you feel the lure of booze to chill you out,
“The family” are not enough motivation.
When you look in the mirror and feel like you’re failing,
That’s not ‘the family’,
These are thoughts you have about yourself.
𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐧𝐥𝐲 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞, 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨 𝐢𝐭 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐅.
Imagine looking in that same mirror and feeling proud,
Imagine losing 10kg and feeling energetic
Imagine being able to call yourself ‘a healthy man’
These feelings are for YOU
They benefit your family, but they are FOR YOU!
YOU don’t want to miss out on life with them, FOR YOU
YOU don’t want to let them down, FOR YOU
YOU want to feel successful, FOR YOU
YOU need this FOR YOU
It’s starts with YOU
And when you start understanding and believing this,
Operating from this position,
True, sustainable change can commence!