WHEN SH1T GOES WRONG!
Here’s a pic of me in the process of losing it earlier today
I had a scheduled Q and A
My internet broke
I couldn’t stream
And I felt like I was letting my clients down
Seems insignificant? Sure
But I’ve got high expectations and when I can’t meet them,
I fume…
𝗪𝐡𝐨 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐬? 𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐯𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮?
Well, in the pursuit of being less reactive,
I think many of us men misunderstand the point
Having a normal human reaction of being pissed off
𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐲 𝐧𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐥…
𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘲𝘶𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴, 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘥𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰 𝘢𝘴 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘶𝘭𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘱𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘧𝘧?
What’s the next action?
Is it self-sabotage?
𝐄𝐱𝐚𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐬 –
I feel stressed, so I drink, so that I don’t feel that anymore
I feel emotional, so I binge, so that I don’t feel that anymore
I feel angry, so I punch things… nothing good to come of that…
Part of a man’s transformation is becoming less reactive
After I cooled down, I just got back to work
Controlled what I could,
Move on…
Remember mate, it’s not about stopping the natural response you have
That’s almost impossible
𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐡𝟏𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐚𝐦𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞
Call it Bro-Zen,
But managing what you do, seems far more important
Jase ‘Cool Ya Jets’ Stuart